No. Such a simple, two letter word. But it can have so much power.
The word no has a lot of negative connotations to it. No, I won’t help you. No, you can’t touch that. No, I don’t have the money. No! Get off the counter. (Sorry, yelling at the cats).
But the word can also be very freeing. Think about yesterday’s post. We have so many people wanting from us, whether it is time or money. There’s only so much we can give before we are depriving ourselves. I’m not saying not to volunteer at your child’s school. If you have time. I’m not saying don’t coach your son’s football team. If you have time.
Time is so valuable. And we are so worried about offending someone by saying no, that we swallow this tiny word and say yes too many times. How many times can you say yes before you are stretched so thin that you have no time for your family. You know, the ones who depend on you. Who need your help and attention more than anyone else. And what about your health and happiness? Yes, volunteering can make you feel happy. It should make you feel happy. But if you feel stressed because of volunteering – that’s where you need to draw the line.
I’m saying it’s okay to be a little selfish with your time. It’s okay to be a lot selfish with your time. Time is so valuable and we never get it back. It’s okay to think of yourself and your family first. It isn’t being greedy or lazy. It is being smart. It is taking care of you and your loved ones above others.
It’s okay to say no.
I’ve been on this tangent for awhile. Take care of yourself. Learn from my mistakes and the mistakes of those who came before you. I didn’t take care of myself, and I suffered mentally and emotionally from it. I was so worried about what other people thought of me, that I didn’t say no. I kept saying yes and yes to more shows and more responsibilities at work and the dance studio. I crocheted over 30 mermaid tail blankets in a 9 month span (In case you are wondering – that’s a lot). When the dust settled, I was drained physically and emotionally and mentally. To the point that I couldn’t take care of my son.
Don’t do it. Say no. Maybe don’t scream it in someone’s face. But don’t be afraid to put some oompf! behind it and mean it. Otherwise, you sound like you’re wavering and not sure, and the person asking for your time commitment can wiggle in and convince you to say yes.
Just say no.