Why We Fail

Why do we fail when we try something new? We don’t always fail, but more than 50% of New Years resolutions fail. Why is that? Two reasons: We don’t have a plan to succeed and we don’t have an accountability partner.

Let me explain.

When we set a goal, it is usually a broad idea. I want to lose weight. I want to be more organized. I want to quit smoking. I want to start a new business. These are all general ideas of something we want to change in our lives. There is no clear path to how we are going to achieve our goal. So, instead of a general idea of what we want to do, how about we set a clear goal? Or maybe a first step towards that goal?

There is a great commercial on my radio. “Mini Quit Mondays”. Every Monday there is a mini quit challenge to help people to stop smoking. And, if you commit to this “Mini Quit” and succeed, you can enter to earn some money. Each Mini Quit is a small way to practice quitting smoking, like no smoking in the car. These are small, attainable goals that you can set for yourself.

If you want to lose weight, set smaller goals or habits. Like, I want to go walking around the neighborhood every evening after supper. Or, 3 days a week, I’m going to have a small salad for lunch instead of a burger. Once you’ve successfully implemented a new habit, you can add another. Plan out your goal.

The best way to do this? Write it down. Studies have shown that if you write down a goal, you are twice as likely to succeed at it. This simple task of writing something down has an amazing effect on our brain. So, why stop at just writing down a goal? Write down the steps you are going to take to achieve it. Write down a deadline for yourself. Keep track of your progress with a habit tracker. And (the best part) no one has to see this but you! But you can share it if you want.

The best way to share it? With an accountability partner. Someone, either in your life or an accountability coach, to help you through the milestones. Someone who will take you to task if you don’t move towards your goals. Someone with whom you can savor the victories or will pick you up in a defeat.

This can be a trusted friend who has seen you through ups and downs. It can be a partner who is going through this new change with you, like a jogging buddy. Or it can be a professional accountability coach. Think they didn’t exist?

Accountability coaching is a service I will be offering by the beginning of next month, and it will be an exclusive product on this website. I want to help you achieve your goals. We will set mini goals or habits to implement and I will be there to send you uplifting messages and check in with you to see how you are doing. Are you excited for this? I certainly am. More details to come later for this offer.

Comment below if you are interested in having an accountability coach. Trust me, having someone else to answer to will increase your chances of success.

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